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The Lie Smart Kids Tell Themselves Forever
"If I don't try and I fail, I can always say I didn't try that hard — so it isn't a real failure." That's the lie. And it quietly caps the ceiling of some of the most talented people you'll ever meet.
Ray recently gave an AI presentation at a major IT event — packed house, standing room only, people sitting on the floor. Most attended session outside the keynotes. His email list grew more in one day than any day he can remember. By every measure, a home run.
But the real lesson wasn't in the presentation. It was in the lead-up — because Ray put more reps into this one than almost anything he's done. Five run-throughs on the day of alone. A 40-page AI workbook built from scratch. Hours of structuring content for an audience that ranged from AI-first operators to owners still getting started with ChatGPT. The kind of preparation most "smart kids" were taught to be embarrassed by — and exactly what produced the confidence walking into that room.
This episode traces that pattern back to childhood: coasting on talent, treating effort as weakness, using "I didn't really try" as an ego shield. And what happens when you hit a level where talent alone stops being enough.
If you've ever caught yourself holding back effort to protect the story you tell yourself about how smart you are — this one's for you.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
- Why growing up "gifted" can build a habit of avoiding effort — and how that compounds over time
- The preparation behind Ray's highest-performing live presentation, including a 40-page AI workbook built for a technically advanced audience
- Why the confidence from going all-out can't be replaced by any shortcut
- How "not trying" becomes an ego-protection strategy disguised as indifference
- What happens when you combine raw talent with the superpower of effort — and why icons like Kobe and Jordan prove the formula
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About Ray:
→ Former Managing Director of National Small & Midsize Business at the U.S. Chamber of Commerce, where he doubled revenue per sale in fundraising, led the first increase in SMB membership, co-built a national Mid-Market sales channel, and more.
→ Former CEO operator for several investor groups where he led turnarounds of recently acquired small businesses.
→ Current founder of MSP Sales Partners, where we currently help IT companies scale sales: www.MSPSalesPartners.com
→ Current Sales & Sales Management Expert in Residence at the world’s largest IT business mastermind.
→ Current Managing Partner of Repeatable Revenue Ventures, where we scale B2B companies we have equity in: www.RayJGreen.com
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Transcript
I used to think that having to try really hard at something was embarrassing—like if it didn’t come easy for me, that something was wrong. And I had it completely fucked up.
So, I gave a presentation on AI yesterday, and it was a packed house. Like, the room was completely full, people standing on the stairs in the auditorium, people sitting on the floor in front of me, and a bunch more people on virtual. It was the most attended session outside the keynote speakers at this massive IT event that I’m at. And it crushed. There were no errors, I finished within a minute of my time, and I got through all the content. A ton of people afterward told me how much value they got from it—you know, walking up to me saying, "Hey, really loved that, the workbook was great." I grew my email list more in one day than any other day that I can remember. So, by all accounts, this was a home run for us.
And the real lesson for me, though, wasn't in the presentation itself; it was in the lead-up to this presentation. Because I was more nervous for this one than I’ve been for a presentation in a really long time. And it wasn’t because I don’t know the content—I’m heavy in the AI, right? I’ve invested a ton of time into learning how to get real quality outputs, improving my own sales processes, and frankly, just improving my life with AI. It wasn’t the content; it was the presentation itself.
I had to figure out how to speak to the logic and the strategy but deliver the tactical value in a separate asset. I ended up building a 40-page workbook in AI that we've put in our sales toolbox. The slides are about how I thought about the process, and then the workbook was all the guts.
Another part of it was that I’m speaking to MSP owners and IT business owners, and they’re technically smarter than me on virtually everything technology. I’m a sales-first guy. I’m a nerd and an early adopter, but I’m talking to an audience that knows tech far more than I’m ever going to know. And even within this technical audience, you’ve got this huge gap on AI. You've got some owners rebuilding their entire companies to be AI-first, and others who are just getting started with ChatGPT. So, I had to split the difference with content.
And because of all that, I invested more effort and more time into this presentation than I think I’ve ever done. Candidly, I don’t have to do that often. If you’re asking me to present on sales or sales management, I know that content so well I can typically package something valuable without a ton of heavy lifting. But this one was different. My wife could tell you—I put a ton of time into this. How am I going to present this? What level of AI do I want to introduce? How do I structure these slides?
Once I had it down to the right time, I put in so many reps. I practiced this presentation over and over and over. Even yesterday, the day of, I probably did it five times. And it was a 10 out of 10. The peace of mind that I had walking into that room—I knew I’d tried my best. I knew I left it on the field.
I realized something as I was walking this morning: the level of confidence that you have when you give your absolute best to something—when you try your fucking hardest—that confidence cannot be replaced any other way. You can’t shortcut that process except through effort. And there’s a peace of mind that comes with that too, because even if I fucked this up, I would not have embarrassed myself because I didn’t try hard enough. If it doesn’t work, so be it.
That lesson—that level of confidence—is something that has shifted for me as I’ve gotten older. Growing up, a lot of things came easy for me. Academics was one of them. Learning has always been really easy for me, and I’ve been told that since I was a kid. I could get kicked out of school with straight As, and I did. Because I was used to people complimenting me for how smart I was and how easy things came, I started to see trying as a weakness. Like, if I had to study for a test, that was somehow embarrassing. I didn’t want to be seen studying.
Naturally, you reach a certain level where no matter what your talent is, you’re going to hit a limitation where you have to try. And if you’ve developed a habit of being afraid to try, it’s going to get really difficult. I used to tell myself, "If I don't try and I fail, I can always say I didn't try that hard, so it isn't a real failure." I had it completely wrong.
Not trying and then arrogantly thinking you could have done it—that's not the feeling I'm looking for. The feeling of laying it all on the field, even if it doesn't work, brings a unique level of confidence. And when you go all out and you succeed? That feeling of accomplishment is worth more than any dollar amount.
The idea that having to try hard is an embarrassment is a weakness. It limits the potential of so many incredible people because they won’t match their gift with effort. If you look at anyone wildly successful—Mother Teresa, Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan—it’s when you take a superpower gift and you put the superpower of effort and "give a fuck" behind it. When you combine raw talent and work ethic, you get wildly outsized results. There’s nothing cool about saying you never met your potential because you didn’t try.
Adios.
